Ten tips to support children going back to school
Whether children are starting a new school, heading into a different year group, or readjusting after a long break, the return to school after summer can be a whirlwind of emotions – a mixture of excitement, nerves and everything in between.
The following guide from The National College shares ten practical tips to support children during this transition. From planning ahead and refreshing social connections, to re-establishing routines, creating healthy sleep habits and encouraging conversations about feelings, this guide is designed to reduce stress and build a sense of calm – making the back-to-school journey more positive for the whole family.
1. Re-establish routines
Gradually shift back to school-time routines a week or two before term starts. Regular bedtimes, wake-up times and mealtimes can help children feel more secure and reduce the shock of change when school begins. Having a routine creates predictability and stability, helping to reduce anxiety while improving sleep and concentration.
2. Talk about feelings
Encourage open conversations with children about their feelings. Ask them how they feel about returning to school, such as what they’re looking forward to and anything they might be feeling unsure or worried about. Validating their emotions can help reduce anxiety and show them it’s okay to talk about their emotional wellbeing.
3. Support with sleep
Children need adequate sleep for concentration, memory and emotional regulation. Establish a wind-down routine without screens at least an hour before bed, and encourage relaxing activities like reading or listening to calming music.
4. Look out for signs
Some children hide their anxiety. Watch for changes in their behaviour, such as withdrawal, stomach aches and irritability. If worries persist, speak with their teacher or the pastoral team early to ensure your child receives support.
5. Refresh social connections
Help children reconnect with school friends by arranging playdates or video chats in the week before school starts. Familiar faces and social interactions help the transition and provide emotional comfort on that first day back.
6. Create a calm morning
Mornings set the tone for the day. Plan ahead with a consistent morning routine that allows time for breakfast, getting dressed and talking calmly about the day. Avoid last-minute rushing to reduce stress for everyone.
7. Focus on positives
Talk about the fun and interesting parts of school – seeing friends, favourite subjects, or exciting activities. One simple but powerful change that parents can make is swapping “How’s your day been?” for “What’s been good about your day?”. This invites more of a positive and open response. Focusing on positives can help shift children’s anxious thoughts and reframe school as a safe and engaging place.
8. Visit or visualise school
If possible, encourage visits to the school grounds before the first day, especially if it is a new school. Walking the route or even looking at photos of classrooms and teachers can make the environment feel familiar. The school website is always a great go-to place for this. This is particularly helpful for younger children or those with additional needs.
9. Plan ahead together
Involve children in preparing for school – buying supplies, packing their bag, or choosing lunch options. This gives them a sense of control and builds excitement. Use checklists or calendars to prepare together, helping reduce last-minute stress.
10. Stay positive and present
Children pick up on your outlook. Stay calm, positive and present, especially during drop-offs. Avoid lingering goodbyes and let them know you’ll be there at pick up. A consistent, reassuring presence builds their confidence and resilience.
The National College Guides aim to empower and equip parents, carers and educators with the confidence and practical skills around online safety, mental health and wellbeing, and climate change.
This guide was created by Jo Morton-Brown. An Emotional Health Practitioner with nearly 15 years’ experience supporting children’s and young people’s mental health.
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